The Three Pillars of Life

I have a friend who recently broke up with her boyfriend of five years. Yes, it came as a shock to everyone when they decided to split (and it was a fairly mutual break up). They started dating at the age 15 and now they are 20. They have done a lot of growing up in that time, just not with necessarily eachother.

Before the actual break up, she was explaining to me a theory on life; the three pillars. The pillars are career, social, and love. She explained that the pillars are never equal and at that point, her career was skyrocketing (she had just been promoted at work) and she finally felt like she had good friends to depend on. Obviously, her love life was falling behind.

This theory of hers got me thinking about my own pillars. My career life is going wonderfully. I was just given a raise and my manager told me that she basically wants to train me to take over her job. Considering that I was contemplating quitting not that long ago, this made me enjoy my job a hell of a lot more. My love life is going great. Our relationship isn't perfect, but I do not see it ending any time soon. That leaves my social life, which is nothing to be jealous of. I used to have a small group of friends who I thought would be there for me whenever I needed them. It turns out, they're not. I guess being so young, I shouldn't have put all of my time into just a few people. We all had a lot of growing up to do, like my friend and her now ex-boyfriend. Not to mention, I'm terrible at calling people.

So, what can I do about this? The only thing that I can do--be a better friend to those that I know and put myself on the line and start introducing myself to new people. And, it wouldn't hurt if anyone tried doing the same for me :)