Should I spell that out for you?

Are men so dense that they can't figure out any kind of hint he's given or understand why a woman is upset?

Growing up?

I think so...


The other day, I found myself saying to my boyfriend, "I'm not making dinner tonight, you're eatin leftovers!" This to me is a sign that I am gaining some maturity.

Friendships coming to an end

Just a quick question...

Would you remain friends with someone you felt has changed into who they never wanted to be--the complete opposite of the person you became friends with in the first place?

Because this is happening to me. At first, I tried to see that these changes were for the better and that she was becoming a happier person. Now, I realize that she's being happy for the wrong reasons such as partying, drinking, having boys lust over her, and being way too involved with materialistic things. She's not around when you need her and then she makes excuses for it instead of saying sorry. If she does apologize, I never feel like she actually whole-heartedly means it. She thinks that I'm stubborn and mean. And I am. I have always been that way, so why does it come off as a suprise now? I'm not the only one who feels this way, our whole group of friends does. So how can a group of people be the problem as opposed to one? Does democracy count in these types of things?

We both really just need to let this friendship go...as sad as it is, but it's not going to work out. Our personalities clash and we wont work on anything to make it better.

I really need advice or someone's input. I don't care if I know you--I need people's opinions in this.

Clarification

I guess in my last blog, I made it seem like Josh was the root of my unhappiness. But, I would like to make it known, that he isn't. He doesn't make me unhappy in life, he makes it better. Our relationship isn't perfect and sometimes it overwhelms me.

What I believe to be the core of my problems is where I live. Kenosha, the third largest city in Wisconsin with the views of a small hick town. The population is 100,000, I believe. It even beats Green Bay, but not Milwaukee and Madison.

A couple years ago, I went to the Twin Cities with my "mentor", Michelle Marschel. Being there, I realized how lame Kenosha really is. Piercings and tatoos are tabooed here, whereas in Minnesota, we could go into a fancy restaurant and the manager would be tattoed from head to toe and have a piercing in every single orface (sp?) of his body. It felt good being there. Like, I could look totally outrageous and not have people look at me like I was crazy. That's what I need in my life--to be in a place where I feel like I'm not being boxed in. My boyfriend agrees with me so we have come up with a solution to my problem, which I will get to in a moment.

There are two things that my boyfriend and I need to be doing in our lives right now. Those things are going to school and working. I want to be an English teacher, so I do have to go get a degree for those who are thinking that I don't have to go and he wants to major in Spanish and Education to either teach the Spanish-speaking or English, which I believe is nifty. I have been going to the local University here in Kenosha and he will be joining me this upcoming semester. It's not that I don't like my school, the professors are great and I enjoy my classes. The problem is that outside of class (and sometimes during) it feels like an extension of high school. I was over the high school scene before I even hit my junior year. I was even planning on graduating a year early to get out of there, but complications arose in my life and my counselor and I decided it would be best to wait. So to fix staying in Kenosha and going to UW-Parkside, Josh and I have to decided that we are going to apply to transfer to three other univiersities: Madison, Milwaukee, and the Twin Cities! Ever since I went there, I have always wanted to go to school in the cities, but it was out of my budget and if I have my boy with me, it'll be easier. Madison is actually the one we are hoping for because it's still in Wisconsin and I get free schooling here because of the GI Bill (my daddy is a veteran). But, seeing as Madison is kind of hard to get into, we are also going to apply to Milwaukee. Even though we don't plan on going anywhere until after this year is over, knowing that I'm actually going to be doing something to get out of Kenosha helps unwound me.

As for work, I just got a new job last month which pays nicely and the hours are great. I have been working since the summer after my freshman year of high school and it's kind of a relief to not have to work so much to get the money I need to support myself. It's definitely going to help when school starts since I'm taking on 18 credits! Also, I can easily transfer to another store in a different area.

Sorry for this blog being so long! I hope you enjoyed reading it if you could even make it through the whole thing.

I need something new

I have been dating the same guy for over two years now. Most of the time, we have this great relationship and I definitely love him. I can see myself spending the rest of my life with him and having his children. This was something I never wanted before he came along. He made me realize that I do want to take on all those roles only a woman can fill. People might say that I am too young to be thinking of marriage, but most of my friends know that I am mature enough to handle it, plus I have been with the same person longer than people who are older than me have been before they got engaged.

Josh is wonderful. But, let's face it, our relationship is dull. I need a drastic change in it. I don't know what it could be though. We did break up at the beginning of the year, but got back together soon after. We realized that we are really crazy about eachother. From there, we got our own apartment with one of my best friends. Some people would say that is a big change, but not really for us because he basically lived with me at my parents house. We are an old married couple without any of the benefits of actually being husband and wife. We do things that we know will upset one another and we don't change anything about out relationship. We argue, make up, and then basically have the same fight a week later.

I don't know what it is, but I haven't been very happy with my life lately. And it's not only my boyfriend, he is just something that is bothering me right at this moment. Maybe I'm just being hormonal. But, I honestly need a change in my life and I don't know what to do. Can anyone help me?